Guest post: Remembering to love yourself first by @MindsofSteel


“Listen, I really like you.”

“Awww. I really like you too - you’re such a good friend!”

Those are words no one ever wants to hear.

If you’ve ever uttered the words, “we’re just friends,” you know all too well the awkwardness of being in that situation. And if you’ve ever been told “we’re just friends,” you know the weird and embarrassing pain of telling your crush you want to take the relationship to the next level, only to be told they don't feel the same way.

Many people from all walks of life face unrequited love and wind up in the "friend zone."

What if I told you most people friend zone themselves?

One of the reasons people end up being "just friends" is they are simply not attractive to the person they desire.

Is it possible to get out the friend zone?

Enter Angelo, an obese tech engineer in desperate need of losing 180 pounds of body fat. When serendipity introduces him to super fit Jean, he’s instantly placed inside the infamous friend zone. Ignoring countless rejection and logical reasoning, Angelo embarks on a mythical journey over three mountains. Never giving in to despair, Angelo‘s astonishing journey shows you how far willpower, perseverance and love can take you. And that nothing’s over until it’s over.

More than a book about struggling with the mystery of the friend zone dilemma, this insightful true story is about breaking down self-imposed limitations about what’s possible in love, life and fitness. It showcases you must stumble in order to triumph, and the transformative power of the human mind. Witty, inspirational and unflatteringly honest, this feel-good drama appeals to the very essence of why romantic relationships are so hard to be successful. And why they’re worth the often painful pursuit.

Whether you're in a relationship, looking for a relationship, or happily single, you'll walk away with a renewed faith in dating and relationships.

Saul Juan Antonio Cuautle is a writer, entrepreneur, and coach based out of Menlo Park, CA. He fell into all these roles by stubbornness or dumb luck. He writes about things that move him.

Guest post:

Don't Forget to Love Yourself First.

Valentine’s Day just happened this past weekend. Every year on this 14th day of February, for some odd reason, we have two categories of people set on pitting themselves against each other: The Couples vs. The Singles.

Some of those in The Couples category are flagrantly broadcasting the gifts of their romantic relationships all over social media. Is all that really necessary? We’re not in your one-on-one monogamous relationship, so why would we care? If you need Valentine’s Day to show your loved one you love them, then you’re doing it all wrong.

On the other end of the spectrum, some of those in The Singles category are flat out protesting this godforsaken day; calling it nothing more a “Hallmark holiday” that exploits the wallets of all those suckers in relationships. They proactively boycott red, flowers or anything warm and fuzzy. You may not be into Valentine’s Day, but you definitely don’t have to hate on people celebrating the day. If someone wants to spend $113, god bless em - it’s their money, they are free to do as they please with it.

Here’s the thing, everybody wants love. Period.

Guy, girl, young, old, black, white, single, not single - people from all walks of life want to experience love. Everyone may not always be able to express that desire straightforwardly, but the core remains the same: humans need some form of love.

The good-bad problem is, technology has changed the game of love.

In today's busy world, it’s not just people and things vying for our attention anymore. It’s virtual people on computerized screens. And make no mistake, these virtual people have taken a significant lead.

We’ve traded good old fashioned let’s meet-in-a-diner-and-chat-away-for-hours-on-end-talking-about-nothing-specific for three pixel by three pixel hearts, 140 character celebrity text messages and “thumbs-up like.” Even worse, most people would prefer to pen-pal with each other back and forth instead of picking up a phone.

How did words on screens and miniature symbols become more important than human voice, human faces and human touch?

I don’t know.

But I do know this: with so many people and things vying for our attention from all angles, it's so easy to forget that you don’t find love, it finds you. It finds you because it starts with you. In order to get love, you must first love yourself. And that’s going to take a journey understanding exactly what love means to you and why.

I know the media, shows, movies, magazines, the Internet, and other people want to tell you how to love or be loved, but don't forget that you live inside your body, heart and mind 24/7.

Who do you think knows you better - someone you’ve never had a meaningful conversation with, some random person off Tinder, some random hater/troll off the Internet, or you?

Know this: no one knows you better than you know yourself.

If you haven't taken the time to find out who you are, what you like, love and don't like and love, what are you waiting for?

Take the time now. Take the time to get to know you. You owe it to yourself and your future significant others in life.

People will come and go in your life. Some because of something you did or didn't do. And some without any real rhyme or reason. That's life.

Just remember, you’re in a relationship with you for as long as you live. Cherish and develop that relationship. All other relationships will only get easier from there. Good luck.

- Juan Antonio


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